Once the break-up has occurred, the questions and self doubt creep in leaving the injured party (and in some instances both parties) feeling left adrift in soul-cringing pain. How do you pull yourself out of this mire? That is the main question you should ask yourself. Instead we tend to focus on what WE did wrong, was it US, should WE change, how can WE be better.
On and on we run through question after question as to where things turned in the relationship to lead to the inevitable break-up. These questions are completely ridiculous. You should never want to change yourself for anyone other than you, but of course, we all find ourselves questioning and thinking heavily about doing just that in a vain attempt to keep what was apparently never meant to be in-tact. This fruitless questioning only prolongs the pain and prevents the healing process from beginning.
Once you stop questioning and accept the loss, it may take a few days of crying, lots of wine, chocolate, and really great friends to help you through the pain and onto a better state of mind. Of course, sometimes it takes quite a bit of time to get to that point, especially if the relationship had lasted a very long time. No matter how long it takes, though, things can and do get better. Especially if you keep telling yourself again and again everyday that it will, it will in fact happen. You will eventually wake up one morning and realize that the sun is still shining as it always does and that your heart and soul feel mended and open again, ready for your next phase in life.
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On and on we run through question after question as to where things turned in the relationship to lead to the inevitable break-up. These questions are completely ridiculous. You should never want to change yourself for anyone other than you, but of course, we all find ourselves questioning and thinking heavily about doing just that in a vain attempt to keep what was apparently never meant to be in-tact. This fruitless questioning only prolongs the pain and prevents the healing process from beginning.
Once you stop questioning and accept the loss, it may take a few days of crying, lots of wine, chocolate, and really great friends to help you through the pain and onto a better state of mind. Of course, sometimes it takes quite a bit of time to get to that point, especially if the relationship had lasted a very long time. No matter how long it takes, though, things can and do get better. Especially if you keep telling yourself again and again everyday that it will, it will in fact happen. You will eventually wake up one morning and realize that the sun is still shining as it always does and that your heart and soul feel mended and open again, ready for your next phase in life.
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